friday sex!

[wolffe]

So this lady on a forum I read who gave birth 8 weeks ago just found out her husband's been cheating on her for more than a year. And the baby was planned. So I got to thinking about cheating and that led to the return of the Friday sex poll.

Anon posting is on if you feel the need to elaborate, and we all know how I love elaboration.

[Poll #1385148]

Comments

[purangel.livejournal.com]

I would like to mention that the person that cheated on his girlfriend with me did so completely unbeknownst to either of us. When I originally found out, I thought he was cheating on me. I later discovered that I was the "other woman." I was mortified and felt used. (I'm married to this guy's best friend, now, and have been with David since 1998).

The guy who flat out cheated on me was a chronic liar and I suspect a chronic cheater. Normally, I may be inclined on giving ONE second chance, depending on how strong the relationship is and the individual circumstance, but it's probable that trust could never be fully rebuilt. This particular relationship, though, was going nowhere and did not deserve second chances.

[mellusions]

I didn't mind being the 'other woman' in the midst of things because I was young (19) and I had zero expectations. We hung out, went to parties, had the sex, but it was all very casual and fun. Lasted about 6-9 months.

I did, however, feel bad when I found out down the road that he ended up marrying that girl he was with while fooling around with me. I do wonder from time to time how that marriage worked out.

[sylphon.livejournal.com]

With mine, it ticked me off to no end since at the time we were in a poly relationship. The one caveat is that we _always_ would tell each other who we were involved with before having sex. Then he decided after we moved to a city he had wanted to move to, to not only cheat on me with a number of women without telling me, but to divorce me a month later (without warning) so he could 'play the field'. That's when he told me about the volume he'd been involved with (I had found out about one already). 7 years down the drain, but to be honest, these days I don't have anything but ire for him, no regrets. Better that I found out before giving him more of my life.

[amerynn.livejournal.com]

Let me clarify that by saying I was cheated on and it wasn't a deal breaker... The cheating was one kiss, I broke it off with him for a while, and he ended up proving to me that I could trust him again

[heinous_bitca.livejournal.com]

I'm going to define my cheated. No sex, just kissing. Does that count as cheating? It was VERY obvious the guy wanted to do more, but I never did.

[angelsmom.livejournal.com]

While in college, one of the scumbags I dated cheated on me. And had the cojones to bring his NEW girlfriend (yeah...while he was supposed to still be dating ME) to visit my sister...AT MY PARENT'S HOUSE!! AND...if that's not enough, introduced her AS HIS GIRLFRIEND!!

How I ended up dating such an asshat I'll never know. Ugh.

[labradors.livejournal.com]

the guy I was the 'other woman' with was just a summer fling thing and we both knew it. It sounded like things were rocky between them and after the job was over I didn't even talk to him until I found him a while back on facebook.
I put 'no' for having been cheated on but I really wonder with one of my serious X's... wouldn't be surprised at all if he had!

[tigerkitty.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you should've defined "cheating" a little better. If it's defined only as intercourse, then no, I've never been the "other woman" either.

[wolffe]

I purposefully didn't define it, because it means different things to different people. I think if you feel you cheated, then you did.

[tigerkitty.livejournal.com]

LOL smart. :)

I define cheating as anything that would make *me* feel like I was being cheated *on*. So I steer clear of that. ;)

[pyrokinesis.livejournal.com]

I went through this phase after high school. Though, I need an it's complicated option for have you been cheated on. I had originally given him permission for the relationship he was in, but I started feeling really bitter when it was taking up more of his attention than ours.